Oh, but we don't love them! There is no "absolute" as to how or why people end up as a couple. And I've not ever seen anyone genuinely and purely "want to be with" the person they're with once that person revealed as "bad". No one likes misery. Let's stop collaring women with this older than dirt excuse that is a backhanded reinforcement for it being okay for men to be "bad" or to treat women badly.